CARRIE BRADSHAW IS BEING ATTACKED! I MUST DEFEND HER

This is My Ride or Die. Are You an Uncompromising Woman? Or Do You Love One?

OMG! I can’t. I just read an article in the Daily Mail calling Carrie Bradshaw a narcissist. I cannot just sit here and allow that to happen. I must defend this woman with my life — as if someone is saying this about me.

First two narcissists can’t be together. Yes. Briefly. But eventually who supplies who? I say this to my clients or my friends almost every day. You know you’re dealing with a personality disorder when the person can’t allow the relationship to work. It’s true of everyone of them. Always a problem. Always something that keeps both of you from being happy. It’s the sabotaging that is the No. 1 most important characteristic. And the one that will make you eventually walk away. Angelina Jolie. Jennifer Garner. Christine Baumgartner.

Carrie very likely was brought up by a narcissist. She is a narcissist enabler. And while they know how to be one, it’s more likely they spend their time chasing one. Big is the classic narcissist. The destroyer. He moves to Paris and drops that info on Carrie in a way that is most likely to crush her. And when she confronts him, he has zero sympathy. Remember when she found him at a restaurant with another woman when they were still just getting to know each other. They were at their best. Happy. And out of nowhere she finds him having a dinner date. No warning. A missile strike.

I get that everyone has trouble with how Carrie treated Aiden. She was trying to be with a good guy. For God’s sake, she gave up smoking for him. She was trying to do the sensible thing. I call mine David Parker, because that is his name. He had it all. We grew up a few houses away from each other. David was gorgeous, sexy, kind, sweet. Normal. He wanted to have a relationship with me. He would have worshipped me. Been there when I needed him. Put up with all my eccentricities. Given me anything I wanted. But I couldn’t. And let me tell you why since it has taken me a zillion years to figure this out. Thank you pandemic. If I were with a David Parker, I would be the bad one. Yes. One way or the other, I need drama. And I’m much more comfortable playing the victim. Because I’m a narcissist enabler, not an actual narcissist.

So Carrie really tried. She wanted it to be Aiden. She was devastated when she couldn’t love Aiden like he deserved to be loved. She was in existential pain when she hurt him — sitting in her bathroom on the floor for hours wearing yellow kitchen gloves knowing that the handwriting was on the wall. She wasn’t capable of being with Perfect Guy.

Aiden didn’t understand her enough to know what kind of ring she wanted. Big understood her. Big knew just how to make Carrie happy. She didn’t want a ring at all. She wanted a closet. So he gave her the closet of all closets. Because that’s what they do. They set you up. And then they obliterate you. He didn’t show up for his own wedding. And who didn’t see that coming? Carrie. That’s who. Because Big made her believe in him. By understanding her like no one else ever could. He didn’t want to sand her floors. He loved her just the quirky way she was.

Carrie gave Aiden so many signals that she wanted to but just couldn’t love him. She wore his ring around her neck. She wouldn’t elope with him to Vegas. She was irritated when the apartment was filled with his stuff. She begged him to stay in town so that she didn’t cheat with Big. And since the article brought it up… She didn’t blame Aiden when her computer broke. She was just angry at herself for not backing it up. And she took it out on him. Aiden didn’t help by being sympathetic. Carrie wanted a man that would tell her when was she was stupid — who would not take something so trivial seriously. Big would have laughed and made a joke. Sorry, but I get that. Slap me around a little. Figuratively. Don’t hold my hand when I’m being a bitch.

You know why she called him Big? Because everything was bigger when he was around. He held her to a higher standard. He pushed her. He made her believe she could be great. He was dangerous. The thing is though, he only built her up to take her down. Narcissism 101.

And by the way, Aiden is back. For more. Just for a minute, can we talk about what’s wrong with him? He’s picking women who are not in love with him. Masochistic much?

Samatha was not just the life of the party, she was a sex addict. And went through something very similar to Carrie. She tried to be monogamous. And couldn’t be happy.

And Miranda? She has a ton of masculine energy. She doesn’t want to be with a man more successful than herself. She didn’t go to Harvard and get that degree just to be outdone. She’s competitive with men. Oh, and now she’s a lesbian? Quelle surprise.

And Charlotte? Charlotte wanted a normal life — one with children and dogs. So she turned down the most handsome man alive, and one she could have had a completely dysfunctional relationship with, for a short, bald Jew. And it wasn’t a compromise. Charlotte has a value system that is real. Charlotte is overweight. Lives for her children. Is very concerned with doing the right thing. Her biggest problem is that she does everything for everyone else. Zzzzzzzzz. It’s almost putting me asleep to write this.

Some people are just not meant to be, is the word average? Or normal? Run-of-the mill? Conventional? Traditional? If you can’t remember the last time you had a good meal? If you are one of those women, call/text. We have a lot to talk about.

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